Confidence is key. You have to believe in yourself and that you really can have the girlfriend you want. But if you’re a little backward and feel you are lacking in confidence, no problem, just ‘fake it’. If you fake it long enough soon you’re going to come to believe it yourself. So acting confident is the first step to being confident. Then you can approach girls and find that girl you’ve been wanting.

Secondly,  don’t spend an overly amount of time speaking with the same girl. If you do this, you are going to end up telling too much about yourself like we just mentioned. You want to maintain a certain amount of mystery. And you don’t want to push her away before she gets to like you. You should create an atmosphere that seems as if she needs you a bit more than you need her. Spending your time talking with the same one about yourself only leads to trouble in the beginning. It makes you look desperate and weak. Like you’re trying too hard to sell yourself. And that you’re easy. Women like a challenge and not a pushover. So keep the conversation short. Let her think about you when she goes home, from curiosity and intrigue.

Thirdly, don’t give away too much up-front. Don’t reveal all your personal feelings too quickly. That can be a turnoff. Just act interested and don’t say any more than necessary at front, without coming off as snobby or disinterested. Let the girl take the lead on asking questions, and simply answer them. Ask your own questions too, you want her to think you’re sincere in your interest. But if you divulge too much too fast about yourself, it can give off the wrong impression. Reveal yourself slowly.

Finally you have to keep in mind that all of this dating game stuff is a numbers game. It sound a little corny but it’s the truth. It’s like knocking on doors selling encyclopedias, you may have to knock on five or six blocks of doors before you make a good sale, but the payoff makes it worth it. And there are some who fare better than others. Handsome rich men don’t have to talk to very many women before finding one to go out with. But for most men, they may need to approach maybe 100 women sometimes before they get to the one they can call ‘girlfriend’.

So you want to stay active and interact with women as much as you can. The more you talk with them, the more your confidence will grow, and the more things you’ll pick up as far as signals that can tell you how you’re doing. You can continually hone your skills until you become a very successful pickup artist. These tools above are good ones for helping you get started on this wonderfully fun journey of meeting women and finding a steady girl. If one seems to get a little disinterested, waste no time moving on. It’s amazing how just that move alone will peak the interest back into the one you left. Girls can be very possessive and loathe competition from other girls, even if they seem to be giving you the cold shoulder. It’s just part of their own tactics. It’s like they only want you, when you don’t want them. It’s all in the game. So have fun, get out there and play, and find that girl you’ve always wanted.

So here are the 4 secrets that you need to get women to notice you and attract female attention:

Have an air of elusiveness – While you want to be approachable, don’t act like you’re the kind of guy who is too willing. Many women love a challenge, and they find the holdouts and the games that can be played very exciting. They want what they can’t have. So be self-contained and don’t come across as being needy. If they think you don’t care, they’ll find it attractive, and try to get you to. It’s just the way they’re made.

While looks really do play a part, it’s your overall appearance that’s more important – Lots of guys don’t even realize that it’s their overall appearance and style that grabs women’s attention. Many guys think they if they’re blessed with good looks that women will flock to them. Women may look for a moment, but will soon weed them out from the pack. It takes a style and a personality to attract women. Knowing how to dress and the way you carry yourself is what women look at.

Find a way of being unique – One of the very best things you can do for yourself when attracting women is stand out from the crowd. Women get approached every day by the same old type of guys. What really attracts them is someone who is different and dances to the beat of his own drum. You have to separate yourself from the everyday Joes. Then they’ll notice you and be attracted to you. They’ll find you interesting and want to get to know you. Copying what everybody else does just won’t get you to where it is you want to go. So develop your own style, be unique, and women will take notice.

Your Body language is another area that attracts women – The thing that not many guys realize is that most of our human communication is done through body language. While we usually only think about this in regard to conversation, our body language is one of our best weapons for attracting women. You don’t want to carry yourself as if you have no appeal to women, they’ll pick up on that immediately. You need to handle yourself in a way that exudes confidence and approachability.

if you are really looking for how to approach  the man of your dreams, you might need to learn how to be very attractive to men and not just any man but a man who could possible end up being the man of your dreams.

Here are certain steps you can take to make your more attractive to the opposite sex.

Self-confidence. When you approach a man, you have to show that you have confidence. I don’t mean the type of confidence that is proud and arrogant and comes off as if you are everything a man can ever want. The kind of confidence I am talking about is the type that radiates self love, independence and is able to socialize freely.
Men run away from women who talk negative, always complaining about something or the other. You don’t want to approach a man and start talking about how much you hate your work and how terrible your ex is. Behaviors like this will send a red signal to the opposite sex.

Smile. Do you have a great smile? If you do, then you are in luck. Men are very attracted to women who wear a smile on their faces. It gives them the feeling that you are somewhat of a happy person and that you are a fun person to be with. If you don’t have a smiley face, then you need to cultivate the habit of smiling. It’s not that difficult to learn how to smile. One of the best way you can learn is by going to the mirror and start making happy faces. You might look silly smiling in the mirror but it will definitely payoff in the long run. Always remember to put on smile a wherever you are.

Be yourself. if you really want to get the man of your dreams, learn to be yourself. Don’t try to be who you are not. Some women come up with so much lies about who they are. Simple lies like this can destroy a potential relationship. Most men will immediately get turned off when they find out that you are pretending. Be real and honest and men would love you for it.

The problem here is that it’s hard to know what advice will work for you and what advice won’t. And the only way to find out is to give it a try. So then you wind up investing your time reading advice and then writing your profile, only to re-write again over and over, and never really getting any successful results.

You finally come to the conclusion that this has all been a big waste of time. Whenever I look at some of these advice columns, it seems that very few of them are ever written by anyone who really and truly tried any online dating, much less every managed and ran a dating website. They always seem produced by people who want to sell profile writing services. Or by journalists and bloggers with feature slots that need filled. I once came across a column that recommended men look to find online dating success by copying the writing principles that are used for selling products or services.

Ok, that sounds fair. And when I think about it, there may be some tips from that which would be helpful. But one big problem lies within that theory, products or services are very different from people. People are way more complex with varying strengths and a wide variety of qualities. And there perceptions differ as well. What one person sees as a strength, another sees as a weakness.

An example of this would that one woman might be attracted to men who are confident and self-possessed, and yet another woman may be totally put off by a man like that, leaning more toward men who are quiet and vulnerable. So I believe that writing a profile isn’t so much about selling ourselves, but describing ourselves.

To explain, you get a sense of who that person really may be. You are drawn to them and your curiosity is raised. The profile has an ‘attraction’ element to it. It identifies with you and you with it, and it resonates within you. You get a sense of the truthfulness of it.

From here it will depend on your own personality, as to whether you’ll initiate contact with them or not. Then you may read another profile and know for sure that person is not your type, so no big deal, you simply move on. You’ve save some valuable time.

So just how can you write a good profile? By being truthful without being overly revealing. Polish the image without being too vague, but also without being too forward. Try to instill within your profile, the things you most want feedback for, the things that mean the most to you, that you want others to like about you, and that you must have before any serious dating could ever start. If you can do this, you should fare very well on the online dating sites.

Make use of those eyebrows. It’s amazing what an effective flirting tool they can be. You can let someone know that you are interested from afar. You can do this from a stationary standpoint or while socializing making eye contact. A raise of the eyebrow, or both of them, is a great non-sexual advance you can use anytime, and it works on both sexes. The only place where this is not considered just a playful and safe universal greeting is in Japan, where it is deemed to be sexual in nature.

One of the great benefits to eyebrow flashes is that usually they will be reciprocated, and that tells you that you and your interest are on the same page, and are approachable due to a mutual interest. If you do get an eyebrow flash back, then you next move should be a big smile that lets them know you’re pleased and ready open for conversation.

If you find that your eyebrow flash wasn’t reciprocated, look to see if you’re too far away. Don’t give up too easily, just ease in closer and give it another try. If you still don’t get the desired response, then simply move on. Nothing hard about it. Always raise both of your eyebrows when performing an eyebrow flash because raising one can easily be misinterpreted as mistrust or a leer.

You should always know when you should speak. Increasing your chances for success in flirtation means taking things in steps. You need to go through a progression of implementing your moves.

(1). First move is an eyebrow flash. This lets them know you are interested, and now you need to wait until they give you one back before proceeding.

(2). Your next move is a four second glance. Glance at your new friend who just returned your eyebrow flash, for a total of four full seconds. Look away for a second or two and afterwards look back. If they’re really interested in you, they’ll still be looking.

(3). Now you flash that big bright smile. If they have returned your eyebrow flash along with making the eye contact, you have a good chance of getting a big smile right back at you.

If you follow these steps properly before making any moves to speak with the one you’re flirting with, your hit rate will skyrocket. It almost guarantees you a good positive response from your new love interest. If you have tried in the past and suffered rejection, this little process here will up your percentage tremendously. Have fun with it, but if the one you select isn’t interested in you, be quick to move on

Watch Her Body Language – Watch to see if she’s licking her lips, or biting them. Watch her smile to detect if she’s giving you the top and bottom teeth and if her face is relaxed. These sound a bit simple, but they’re very telling. Check out her eyes. Is her gaze a deep one? Are here eyebrows raised? Did she wink at you? All of these are signs of interest as well. Does she fiddle with her hair? Or run her fingers through it and then tossed it off her shoulders? She most likely is interested.

Compliments – A very telling sign that she is interested is if she compliments you. She is flirting. If it keeps coming at you, she is indeed interested.

Check Her Comfort Level – When a woman is comfortable with you she will let you know with her body. For instance, if you’re in a bar and reach around her to grab a drink. If she flinches it’s negative, but if she doesn’t, she’s comfortable with you and possible interested.

Touching – If you are talking and she touches you, regardless of where it is, she is showing another sign of interest.

Look For Little Signs of Jealousy – If another girl begins talking with you, even briefly, and it seems to bother her, it’s a sure sign she’s interested.

Watch Her Movements – See if she is always moving in a way that catches your eyes, as if trying to get your attention. Like she wants you to see her hoping you’ll admire her.

Look For Signs of Curiosity – Once you start conversing is she asks lots of question, then it’s a dead giveaway she’s interested.

There are some very good indicators for detecting whether or not a woman is interested in you. Study them over and memorize them. Watch for them in any social setting you go to. These are the tips that will help you land a girl friend. Everyone has to begin somewhere, and I hope you take these to heart and put them to good use. It’s a real shame to waste them.

Quite recently, I asked a relationship expert about the things a woman can do to attract the opposite sex. Well, she give me some few pointers and I am going to share them with you.

Always look your best: You have probably heard this one before. You need to look your best. It does not matter if you are going around the corner to get grocery, because you never know who you are going to meet. I have had friends who love to dress to kill for parties but whenever they are not partying, they tend to dress a bit shabby. Regardless of where you are, always look your best.

Stand in the middle of the room: You can try standing in the middle of the room whenever you go out partying. Make small talk with people near you and try to start a conversation if you can. When standing in the  middle of the room, don’t hunch your back and  try not to get into the habit of sitting down because you might miss finding someone interesting.

Body language: When people meet you for the first time, what type of reaction do you get. Are they smiling when you exchange greetings with them or they seem to have a stern face. Sometimes people project the messages we send out to them because of our body language. One way to find out is by looking at yourself in the mirror. If you have a stern look about you and you notice that people seem to have a stern approach towards you, then you are probably giving off that vibe. One way to cure this problem is by smiling all the time. Don’t worry, you are not fooling yourself by smiling all the time. You are only learning to keep a smiling face when you approach someone.

Bad habits: Some people have bad habits that they are not even aware of. Habits such as excessive talking, chewing gum all the time, frustration, picking on nails etc. All this things can hinder your ability to meet men.

Make A Good First Impression – You maybe know her pretty well, and inside you know that you two can be good together, but maybe she doesn’t. Because she can’t know and feel what’s inside of you. The only way she has of judging things is by what you say and do. So when you first meet her, do your level best to put your good foot forward. Be respectful, no dirty jokes or acting uncouth. Be a gentleman, but not overly, too nice is a turn off. But keep in mind that what she sees and hears is all she knows concerning you.

Always Be Yourself - This phrase is used many times and I’m sure you’ve heard it before, and it’s because it’s so true. And I know you think you need to act cool in order to attract her. This is partly true, and partly not. And I know many times being yourself doesn’t work out so good. But you can’t keep up a charade all your life.

It does get a bit complicated, due to the fact that you want to impress her and make her notice you. But you want her to love the real you, not somebody else that she may think you are. And if she doesn’t, you’ve saved yourself a lot of misery. Because we aren’t dealing with any one night stand, what we’re talking about is the ‘real deal’, real love. And the only way for you to do it is by being the real you.

Be Her Friend - Any kind of true love means being a true friend as well. You can love someone without really liking them, and one day, that fact will bite you. You have to be friends no matter what. And that’s what women seek after, is a long-term relationship, someone they can count on when the chips are down. So show her right off that you like her and are her friend. Be a good listener, spend time with her and truly enjoy her, and it will show through.

Take It Slow – This kind of love we’re talking about doesn’t happen overnight. Don’t believe the things you see in the movies. The fact is that love needs to be cultivated and grow. It takes time for it to blossom. Getting to know someone is much more than knowing what they like and dislike, people are way more complicated than that. Remember that infatuation and love are two very different things.

Give her plenty of space and plenty of time. Even if you want to be with her every waking moment. You don’t want to appear too needy. Many a guy has driven a woman away, because the woman was looking for someone strong, and they came across as being needy. But try to make a lasting impression each and every time you see her, even in little subtle ways.

If you definitely like this guy and you intend to see him again, here are some simple steps you can take to have an enjoyable date.

Date Dress: Pick your dress days before you are ready to go on your date. Get it ready so that all you have to do is put it on. Pick out your jewelry, make your hair and gather all the essential things you need a day prior to your date. You don’t want to get to your date late because of some simple things you could have done a day prior. On the day of your date, get ready a bit early and try as much as possible to get to your date location at least 15 minutes early.

Give Compliments: Immediately  you meet your date, try and give a sincere compliment. People react positively when giving compliments and it will ease that feeling of nervousness in the beginning. You can compliment him on anything from his dressing to his mannerism.

Talk your date: A lot of women who go on a first time date always end up messing it up because they are nervous or just plain confused about what to say. If you find yourself in that situation, you can just start by asking a basic question. Most men will have the impression that the reason you are not talking to them is either because you are uncomfortable and you would rather not be there or that you are just downright not interested in them. You don’t want to give out such an impression. You can break the ice by just simply asking a question.

Drinking on dates: If you fall into the habit  of drinking too much, then you need to avoid drinking on dates. When you go on a date and you find out that your date is not drinking, then it is advisable not to drink because it will show him that you are really interested in him. If both of you are drinkers, I suggest you drink just a little so as not to loose focus on why you are there.